ust last week I met up with a mentee of mine (let’s call him John) who writhed to me, “Matt, I’ve been played.” He then complained about the frequent mind games that his woman played on him, and how he got driven to the edge of his sanity from these mind games.
I emphatized with John because I was in a similar position many years ago – way before I founded the Baltimore Seduction Lair (SIBG.com) of course. Over the years, I’ve come to this realization – regardless of whether you are just dating around or are in a serious relationship with a woman, you need to learn how to beat a woman’s mind games if you don’t want to be stepped over by these goddesses all your life.
The sad fact is that women play mind games all the time when they want to get men to do things that they want or need (and they may be doing it subconsciously). F0rtunately in some cases, they use methods that are easy to spot, like playing hard-to-get or just blatantly using you altogether. These are red flags that you may want to avoid. Seasoned seducers do not put up with a woman’s nonsense, no matter how hot she is.
So the bottom line is this: no matter what method a woman uses, you should never fall prey to a woman’s mind games.
For example, take a quick peek at this interesting article from Marie Claire (check out the link, but don’t forget to come back) – it discusses and analyzes the dating mind games in a “he said, she said” fashion. After all is said and done, one thing remains clear: you should learn how to beat those simple yet extremely powerful games of theirs.
This way, you can save yourself from any potential embarrassment and get the upper hand in the relationship department altogether. Keep reading to find out what the most common female mind games are and how you can beat them with ease…
The Game of Jealousy
When women start making you jealous with other men by talking to them or praising them around you, even when those men aren’t around; then you should know that you are being played. Women will intentionally try to make you jealous because they know that you will end up trying harder to impress them in the long run when they do so. This is one of the reasons why they might start playing hard-to-get as well.
The best way to beat this game would be not to react to anything that she says at all. Regardless of how over-the-top her praises might be, you shouldn’t show her that you are affected by them. If you stay confident in your skin and do not react to what she says in any way, she will eventually get tired of her game and realize that you aren’t affected by petty things like jealousy anymore. She may even drop going down the route of mind games altogether if you’re lucky.
The Game of Disrespect
Every couple will go through a time where disrespect is the main problem (indeed, this is one of the biggest sticking points of newbies who just joined the Baltimore Lair). This is basically the stage wherein women want to prove that they still have the upper hand in the relationship. The best way to beat this particular game would be to let her know that you value self-respect more than anything else. Once you open her eyes to this simple fact, she is sure to drop the game and run back into your arms again because she will be afraid to lose you.
So, if you want to learn how to beat a woman’s mind games, you either have to ignore her completely or be blunt with her and scare her a little bit. A lot of the time, women only play these games because they are craving attention.
If you call her out with confidence, stand firm and show her that you won’t tolerate any of that nonsense, she is sure to stop the game altogether. If you don’t do, then the cycle will simply keep on going without end. If this continues, then it’s about time to swallow it up like a real man, then perhaps go to the nearest bar and begin your quest ofpicking up women and make them your girlfriends. OK, I kid. Maybe.
The Ultimate Cure-All
Through our experience of coaching men in the Baltimore Lair more the last 14 years, we have come to know this: a potent combination of jealousy and disrespect usually marks the end of the seducer. It’s possible to recover, of course, but it’s a steep mountain to climb. Problems like women mind games are best be nipped in the bud.
Remember that mind games are essentially a problem in the STAGE 2 (comfort) phase. The easiest way to overcome this problem is to quickly escalate to STAGE 3 – attraction. And the easiest way to do this is to use fractionation. Indeed, once you mastered this technique you will be able to know exactly what and how a woman thinks – and this is tremendous advantage to any seducer.